I was feeling stuck.
I felt trapped in a job where I was treated unfairly. I loved what I was doing but the environment and the terms under which I was doing it felt completely unbearable.
Can you relate? Maybe you’re not feeling stuck in your job. Maybe it’s in your relationship or your living environment or a friendship or some situation that has left you feeling helpless and exhausted.
Guess what –You were playing the victim.
The bad news is, that situation probably isn’t going to change until you do.
Getting unstuck is an inside job.
What does that even mean? It means that you are almost never completely stuck in a situation. You have control, you simply need to take it back.
You can’t control how other people behave but you do have control over your actions and behaviors.
Here are the steps to take to get unstuck:
Take ownership of your part in the situation. This is sooooooooo hard but it is the only thing that will truly move you forward.
Get out of victim mode and reclaim your power. Look at what you are or are not doing that created the situation you are in. For me, it was realizing that I hadn’t set healthy boundaries. I said yes all the time but then complained about it every chance I could.
Take action. There is a saying I live by: We teach people how to treat us.
Are you feeling like a doormat? It’s because you are allowing people to walk all over you. It is not their fault for always asking or assuming that you’ll do something because that’s the pattern you helped to create.
Start saying no. Start expressing what is not acceptable for you and what is.
Name your limits and stick by them.
Setting boundaries takes courage but I’ll take that over feeling helpless any day!
If you have questions or need some extra support, I’m always here for you!